(this is what you get when you google image “man harem” & it’s not in any way indicative of what kind of man harem I’d want.)
I truly want a life partner. I really do. I’m seeking a relationship. But right now I am pretty tired of the years of celibacy and a man harem sounds pretty good. Vaguely reminiscent of Benedict Cumberbatch is more than sufficient in the bedroom department… when he deigns to grace me with his dick. But it’s far too infrequent. I’m NOT complaining. I’m so happy to see him when it works. But it’s complicated. And I just can’t expect him to fuck me as much as I’d like. I’ve never found a man who wanted as much as sex as I do. That lie that men want it all the time and women don’t isn’t true, not for me.
I’ve tried to amass a man harem before. Maybe if you have low standards it’s easy. I don’t have low standards. I have no tolerance for bullshit. I demand open communication. And reciprocity. And a guy has to be very good in bed and also pleasant enough to deal with when not fucking. If I had 3-5 guys on hand I might get about half as much sex as I want, but it’d do. But I won’t take quantity over quality. I’m a Capricorn and we have a real taste for the good life and dick isn’t immune to my scrutinizing taste.
The trouble is finding even one suitable guy seems fucking impossible. I may cave and break the ban on poly guys. If they’re not douchey or spreading super-gonorrhea it could be ok.